I find it interesting that so many people just spout off anything onto the message board on linkedin and other social networking sites.  Think about it.  What you put out there is a full reflection of who you are.

So many people are constantly lowering their own quality and capacity to network by being selfish in their comments.

Here is what I am talking about… most discussions that are started are self serving.  Most of us are busy and we skim through questions if we do at all.  If someone puts a question out on the discussion board that is not immediately appealing, thought provoking, and appealing, most will just pass it over.

For example, I asked this question today:

If you were having lunch with a person that had the power to fund your business, what are the top three questions you would ask?

I posted this question at 2:30pm today on various applicable message boards and it is 6:41 right now the same day.  I have had exactly 49 responses that are thoughtful, thought provoking and are adding value to the groups that answered.

Now most of you may think, big wow, 49 responses isn’t much of anything.  But what you don’t see is the quality of the network that is built from it.  I now have networked with three major owners of Venture Capital firms (one of my initial goals) because of this question alone.  In fact one of them requested to sit on my Board of Advisors… all this happened today from asking a good question… in a little over four hours.

Learn the power of thoughtfulness and put some thought into the comments and questions you make before you make them.  Ask yourself these questions before pushing the “send” button:

1. Does this comment or question portray me the way I want to be seen?

2. Does this comment or question add value to other people if answered thoughtfully?

3. Does this comment or question help me reach an end goal…however indirect it may be?

4. Am I placing this question or comment in a place that will be interested in the topic?

5. Am I helping the individuals in this group grow from this question?

I hope this helps.

About the author

Nate Kievman

Nathan Kievman is a highly sought after Digital Strategist, bringing a no nonsense business approach to digital and social strategies. His company, Linked Strategies is a consulting firm that specializes in measurable LinkedIn Client & Talent Acquisition Campaigns, helping companies from around the world find the fastest path to their target market today through services, training and technologies.

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12 Responses to “Think before Linked”

  • pete says:

    Great point Nate. Seriously, once someone grasps this simple but powerful approach, it opens sooooo many doors. Thanks for sharing.

  • Yes Nate, I agree, I have found your suggestion very useful. It is important to look at things from other people's point of view. It is one of Jay Abraham's principles. It is so easy to be self serving, So I do agree with you that we should think carefully before posting things. Best Wishes Michael

  • Andrew says:

    Hi Nate thanks for reminding me of the power of the internet and it is so often used frivolously. A friend of mine is starting an online business and apparently one of the major causes of online business's failing is not being able to cope with the volume of sales coming in . The net is World wide 24/7 and that's a huge audience...

  • Peter says:

    Great point Nate. I don't know Andrew but do you mean cope with excess jobs or not enough jobs? If it is excess jobs then please let me know how to get to that point LOL. I can use all the business I can get right now. Nate, could you post the top three things that came from your question please?

  • mike says:

    Your note should be posted on all linked in websites - the number of groups I belong to shrinking fast due to useless commentary. i.e. what does a US baseball score have to do with a biotech network? If people just want to be noticed that is why facebook, bebo, myspace exist. Does the comment add value - will the other party grow - very key thougths to whether you should start or add a note

  • Nate, Your #5 is my #1 - Am I helping the individuals in the group grow? I like to ask whether my posts and /or comments help the person I am reaching out to. Or, am I posting just to see myself post ? I receive quite a bit of discussion back and forth - and the quality discussions with value become flagged for a potential radio interview. It's been a wonderful way to find great content and insightful guests. Thank you for this discussion. It's much easier to post before thinking of why you are engaging in the first place. I also think (as mike) this should be a post on many many sites!

  • Karen says:

    Hi Nate, great post. I think it's important to recognize that most of us are using LinkedIn as a means to an end; we're trying to build our business, market our product or service, or establish ourselves as the 'go to' person in our field, etc. I've thoroughly enjoyed the groups I've joined for the most part, but I admit to leaving some due to the degeneration of the conversations. I particularly like your idea of posting a provocative question as a means to generate discussions that can lead to beneficial connections. I look forward to attending your next webinar. Cheers.

  • Jeannie Rios says:

    Hello Everyone, I am new to the group and am so glad to be here. This is the first post I received and it is great! I can see I will be able to learn a lot here. I definitely agree with #5. I don't think most understand that when we look for the benefit of others, it actually works for the benefit of you too. I am going to keep this as a note to make sure my post contain all these points. ;) This approach does work best. It does attract the right kind of responses and the kind of people you want to work with because they understand the underlying idea.

  • nate says:

    Thanks Jeannie! Glad this was helpful.

  • Hello. I am a newbie at truly utilizing Linkedin to it's full capacity. I am an eager learner so I really appreciate the enlightenment Nate! As Pete said...It's so simple, yet powerful! I will never again TELL everyone how awesome I THINK I am :) I do like # 2 personally. Also, Mike made the following comment: "Your note should be posted on all linked in websites..." It seems like me posting an "update on my main page, isn't the only place I should post it?? Please help this uneducated but eager to learn Linkedin user! Sharon

  • Pam says:

    Nate - I couldn't agree more. Plus there seems to be more and more folks answer questions who don't have accurate knowledge of the topic. I often feel sorry for the folks who are genuinely trying t o learn. Many times they don't know the difference of a right and wrong answer. Authenticity and helping others before you help yourself will exponentially increase the odds of positive return. Have a great night!

  • nate says:

    LOL Sharon! Post it in groups, news feeds and on your update status... you can also tweet about it and share it on facebook and social bookmarking sites if you are so inclined.